We have been implementing various methods to use our discretion, and the techniques mentioned in this article will reinforce it tenfold. Exercising discretion is extremely important because it shows us how we should think, speak and act every moment, if we want to be successful in all our tasks.
Without this, we will never be able to rise above our negative tendencies and establish ourselves.
Let us take the example of a true story where the lack of discretion led to comical failure. Once, there was a man who was crossing a busy road. He was grazed by a vehicle and sustained a minor head injury. With the intention of claiming compensation from the transport company which owned the vehicle, he hired a lawyer. His lawyer filed a case in court and told his client, “The driver of that vehicle was driving carelessly. So, it is very easy for us to win the case and get some compensation. I will do all the talking in court. However, I require a little co-operation from your side. When I call you to the witness stand and ask you what happened when you were crossing the road on that particular day, you must say, ‘The vehicle hit me. It injured my head and caused profuse bleeding.’ Can you do that?” The man thought this was easy and cheerfully agreed. When the case was discussed in court, the man went to the witness stand and took the oath. However, when his lawyer asked him, “What happened when you were crossing the road?” he said, “The vehicle hit me and taught me a lesson that I should be more careful when I cross the road next time.”
Of course, as you can very well guess, the man lost the case. So whether the issue at stake is big or small, we require discretion to guide us through. When we activate the faculty of discretion, we will be aware of the impact of every action we initiate and intuitively avoid thinking, speaking and behaving in ways that will be detrimental to our success.
The second quality — charisma, is also vital. What is charisma and how does it work? Here’s an example.
When a chubby infant smiles at us, what do we do? We greet the baby, talk to it and sometimes even caress its cheeks. If we have the time, we even carry the baby for a few minutes and play with him/her. Just one smile from a baby brings out several vibrations of love from our soul so spontaneously. Why? We forget ourselves as soon as we tune into the innocence and joyful exuberance of a child.
Babies retain a strong connectivity with their souls because they are not spoilt by calculative and devious thinking. They don’t give a dazzling smile to the rich neighbour and a frosty nod to the gardener. They express their true feelings each moment with complete transparency and spontaneity because they operate from the soul and not the mind, and the soul expects nothing from us. That is why we find them so attractive and charming.
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