Sex file: I cheated on her, she doesn't know

The Sex Files series continues where we ask men and women to share their experiences and attitude towards dating, relationships and sex.

This week's theme: Have you ever been tempted to cheat on your partner? These men and women confess some pretty intimate details.

Meddlers not invited!

Meghna Vishesh (Name changed to protect identity) is a married 30-year-old content writer from Mumbai who's husband thought she was cheating on him. Here's her story.

Yogen was my ex-flame from college days. In those days he did not have the guts to tell me he liked me. After I got married to Vishesh, (whom I fell madly in love with on shaadi.com) Yogen suddenly called me up one day and asked that we should meet.

After taking permission from my husband (he knew our history), I went to meet Yogen. Over coffee, he expressed that he was in love with me all along. But I told him that I was only and only in love with my husband. Surprisingly, Yogen understood and then we started chatting about old times.

But, I hadn't noticed that my husband's colleague was in the same cafe. He made a call to my husband and told him that I was coochi-cooing with another man. In fact, he spiced up the whole story to such an extent that my husband, who knew that I was with Yogen, thought I was cheating on him.

When I went back home, he was very upset. For one, I am glad he was upset and blurted out everything to me. I shudder to think of what would have happened if he just kept it inside. We would have never resolved this situation in our marriage.

And yes, I do feel like shooting my husband's colleague, who just wanted to get a masaaledar story, but did not understand how it could bring about distrust in a relationship. I would never cheat on my husband, I am too much in love with him. He has given me my baby, and we are a happy family.

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I can't tell her!

Rohit Verma (Name changed to protect identity) , 28, is engaged to be married to his high-school sweetheart, Prerna. Read his story.

There was this one time, I went out with my friends to this lounge bar for a guys night out. It was a crazy night, and after a couple of rounds of drinks, I sort of made out with this completely unknown woman.

I regret it, so do! I have never seen that woman again. Actually I have not gone to that lounge bar again, after that incident. I love my fiancee, always have, from high-school days. And now we are getting married. I don't want to jeapordise my relationship with her at any cost. I took my friends into confidence and made them swear not to tell her, ever.

I know you might say it is a better idea to keep everything in the open, especially since I am marrying her, but I think these things are better left unsaid. She trusts me, believes in me, and that's how I want to be.

If she gets to know? Chances are, she won't. But if she does, I will think of something then. Now I just want to focus on my wedding.

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Need to be more possessive!

Abhishek Patro is a 26-year-old single banker from Delhi and has strong feelings about infidelity.

There are a couple of reasons why I would cheat on my partner. But the most important reason would be if I know she is cheating on me! My long-time girlfriend Priya just dumped me recently. I used to be very sensitive to a "woman's sense of independence", so I never restrained her; I never showed my possessiveness.

Little did I know that she was seeing this other guy behind my back. She even had the gall to tell me that she was going out with him, and I never had problems, since he was in the same friend circle.

Then one day, she just left me saying, 'you're just not possessive about me at all'.

So much for giving your partner space!