Single? Tempted to rebound?

The only truth behind a rebound is that nothing is true. It is like the rickety bridge that serves as the only path from Broken Heart Land to a seemingly Firm Ground Land. People with broken hearts (Been here!) turn to the first person they find interesting or to the first person who shares a similar story of life. Let’s baptise the newbie single as the ‘reboundee’ and the poor soul in the trap, the ‘rebounded’. Everything that the rebounded says seems perfectly right and every theory of theirs seems like the truth of the universe. The places they love are suddenly the only places on the map, the food they like is the only palatable food around and the ex becomes the cranky, villainous one. Alarm bells have to start ringing when everything the ex did not do is offered on a silver platter in front of your eyes and money becomes a cheap commodity, while meeting, dating and mushy-mushying the rebounded occupies the top priority on schedules. Numerous texts, long chats, longer phone calls and the longest nights in a while are characteristic of rebounding (Done this!). It is almost suicidal to wear the rosy tinted glasses thinking the romance is here to stay. Things start falling apart when either one realises that everything is like a day dream, where the dreamer is in search of the right one. Months of sulking in the dark will follow and the mantra ‘Better luck next time!’ is the only pain-assuaging ritual! At the end of this typically three-six month rebound, the rebounded feels used, cheap and wronged, while the reboundee is downtrodden destroyed (Been here, too!) because of lack of confidence in relationships and guilt for losing track of the values and principles that were well-defined before the start of the relationship.Lingering in the limbo of a broken relationship is almost heavenly when compared to lingering with a baggage of guilt in the limbo of a sour rebound. Why are we talking about this in the column Single in the city? Why not! All the ‘newly single’ species of human beings are in the red alert zone of falling prey to rebounds.  Rebounding is as good as continuing being single because it leaves you exactly where you started, the crease of distress. Chuck the rebounds and remain single. Let love take its course because life starts only after you meet the right one (Realised this!). Until then, boys, just plug in your earphones or grab a drink with the guys, as for the girls, dab on some red nail polish and head out for an all-ladies night. In short, happy mingling folks!