How to Stop Being Depressed About Love

Be accepting that you can't make other people into something they are not. This includes trying to make someone love you; it will happen if it's meant to be but if they change and their love for you also changes, it isn't a good idea to take out their choices on your own self-esteem.

Be patient. Love is a very varied ideal and no two people have the same notion of what it is, or is not. This is often the reason behind why love relationships don't always work out because both parties have different viewpoints of what love is and how it should be impacting their lives. In being patient, you can do several important things for yourself: You can get on with your life and the activities you enjoy You can cultivate your interests to the greatest extent possible You can open to all the incredible possibilities that are still awaiting you, including and especially love You can learn self-patience and apply that to everyday life

Find and make the most out of distractions. Pursue your hobbies, watch your favorite movies, head outdoors with a trusted friend, etc. When love is getting you down, do something to get on top of the blues. Action is always the best antidote to moping and negativity.

Look for the lesson. Being rejected is never pleasant but each time something like that happens to us, there is something we can learn about ourselves, about how relationships develop or fade. Look for what you can take from this to apply to future relationships rather than trying to go over what could have been different. A lot could have been different but hindsight does not changes the past; it only informs the future.[[Image:Determine-if-You-Are-Safe-Coming-Out-As-LGBT-Step-5.jpg|center]

Remember that you're not alone. Most humans will experience love at its best and at its worst as they grow through life. Many people know how hard it is to hurt over a lost love; however, the reality is that people move on. Picking up the pieces, taking the lessons with us, is part and parcel of being human.

Stay involved. Keep seeing people, keep getting out and doing things. Depression has a habit of keeping a person at home, where it feels worse. Getting out more is a key to moving on.

Relax, there's plenty of time to find love. It will come, even if you're in your 90s.